| Hi Xibalba,
Please take the time to read the weight lifting and nutrition stickies in the relevant areas. There is a wealth of information available. If you have any further questions after reading please ask. A couple of points however:
-the principles for gaining muscle are the same for men and women. Lift big, eat big and sleep big.
- You can't spot reduce fat. Your body dictates where the fat comes from. There are however specific exercises that target your obliques but it does not necessarily mean the fat around them will disappear. | 
