how do you get rid of the uglies?? that is embrace the things you cannot change or atleast without plastic surgery anyway! I thought i was okay but relized i am comparing myselfto other people - not good. so i'm trying not to fall into the old trap again.. how'd that ugly duckling turn into a swan again?

dont think about it? sorry, im full ofmyself, and I consider it a good thing. Just try to have fun,and stop worrying you silly goose!

hey, just wanted to say im exactly the same way! always comparing myself to other people..etc... but thats not being fair to yourself! just think that you're a unique person and its not cool to be exactly the same as everyone else!

You're fine, I'm fine, we're all fine. What makes us not fine? The perception of other people? Who cares! I don't. I don't care what other people think.

I took that attitude and stopped worrying about what other people thought of me. The only one you have to make happy or be happy with is yourself. You're probably being too hard on yourself. Look in the mirror and be honest with yourself, are you more concerned with what YOU think or what others think. Try not to get down on yourself.

Just be yourself, keep your head up. Im sure what other people see when they look at you is quite different than what you see in yourself

i guess you are your own worst critic. i get a lot of people(women) coming up to me saying stuff like - your so thin you make me sick. they think its a compliment but it sounds soo bad. i'm not under weight. just very toned and god bless genetics and lots of hard work i am 5'5" and very petite. the prob is men. haha. do they find me intimating or what i don't get it? i've had 3 guys approach me in 2 1/2 years. i am seeing one fellow but once or twice a month only- used to be more but... so i start to get hypercritical. i'm not ugly atleast i don't think so and i don't think being a single parent makes me that scary so.. maybe i'm not as great as i thought i was! who knew? but i'm probably just being stupid right? i guess i've more work to do on booasting the self esteem after crawling out the hell relationship i was in for 12 years. i am everything to my kids, i am wonder woman!

You have kid right? Well, single men see the little tyke, and freak out.

My suggestion; ditch the kid. XD

If there's one thing a guy doesn't like, it's a girl who's uncomfortable with herself (secondly) and criticises everything (primarilly).

Plus, if you're too busy beating yourself up, you set yourself up for failure of meeting ****ty people. Just believe in yourself and get comfortable, so you may one day meet a man like me. *wink and smile*

Ladies and gentleman, I think we just hit paydirt.

As Arnold would say, "excellent work"

oh **** dont say that..didnt some chick called Susan something drown both her kids after her lover wouldnt commit because she had kids...

well i love my kids very much so there is no chance of that happening.. besides a grown man afraid of a couple of kids is definately not the right guy for me.. i'd terrify him..lol

i dont think the guy was scared of the kids...just scared of commitment and becoming an instant father...thats what most guys problems are.

no one can make you feel inferior withought ur consent!!!

if you dont think ur good no one else will..

learn to love yourself ;D

-mathieu

Your problem is clearly living in Ontario, among challenged people. For god's sake, they all vote Liberal every election. Come on down to Alberta for an ego boost.

hmmm and are you going to put me up until i get a job????