Listen, I don't know the whole story, and I may be extrapolating too much, but you hear this crap over and over. It sounds like the usual 'guy likes girl who just needs a "guy girlfriend" to talk to' scenario. This kind of thing is a waste of time if one of the parties has further interests. It works both ways. Come on, you know when a girl has it for you...The way she acts around you, the way she smiles, the way she talks to you, jokes with you, trys to be around you, they way she just has those slight butterflies around you etc. So a girl can also sense that from a guy. She absolutely knows that he's into her - I'd bet a thousand bucks on that. And, if in this situation she was interested too, then it would happen. You also know how it feels when you have a girl that's into you and for one reason or another you just don't feel it for her. But at the same time you kind of enjoy the attention or even just like the genuine friendship - but at the end of the day you're not going to go further with her.

Look, If he wants to give it a shot and it won't interfere with his work or whatever, then sure, make a move. And don't care less about 'getting in between her and her boyfriend' , that's his problem. But my advice is make a clear move and if it is not reciprocated with 100% interest then move on to the next girl. Life is just way to short to fawn over one girl who's already taken.

Absolutely agree.

Thank you all for the comments

So as it stands now I'm starting the 'dating' process again... This time I've setup an online profile; I've had friends who've had success with such things... So far it's going bad; apparently I'm quite the stud when it comes to women aged 41 and above... I don't understand something though; one of the hottest (highest rated) guys lacks the ability to use punctuation and grammar. Since when do looks matter .

*sigh* I have a plan b though.

Dont go the prostitute route man.

Hey STUDly, the opinion I gave was the same I have given my SON in the past. At least he fakes that he respects the wisdom I have gained from experience. I'll shut up now : )

I find it hard to understand how people can fall in love with someone who your friends with. maybe thats just me, Iv been in love properly once, and learnt from that 'mistake' that i call it.

I dont like love, not for my age anyway, when i meet the right girl but for now ima just keep what im doing and thats good with me

Suppose tell her how you feel tho man like ppl have said, you never know...other wise move on and ***** some women

I've told her before that I've really enjoyed spending time with her. And she's told me that she's been really happy when I'm around... But I'm afraid of saying "I love you"; because she's 9 years older than me; she wants to get married and have kids, and I'm a poor 21 year old college student who can't give her what she wants.

I think my biggest problem is that I have a thing for older women... They're much easier to be around with, especially conversation-wise. Lately I've been trying to really find someone special to be with; hell I don't think I've ever been with somebody I would call a 'girlfriend', and I've definitely have never been in 'actual love ' up until I met the girl.

I think I'm going to have to find a 'love' forum to discuss my problems.

I agree, I can't remember the last time someone repped my outstanding use of the semicolon