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View Poll Results: Is it ever acceptable to give unsolicited advice at the gym?

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  1. #31
    tonymcclellan is offline Super Moderator
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    The terms of our contract should remain private


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    [Focus] is offline Request Title Change from Admin
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    This thread has gotten very punny.

    Also, thanks to everyone who's contributed since the last thanking. :P

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    Danger_Dave is offline Verge of Overtraining
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    I don't know if unacceptable is the way to put it. But alot of people don't appreciate when you give them advice (in my opinion anyway), they always think they're right and personally I realized that i dont' really care if someone else is screwing themselves over.

    but it's good that you want to help someone. Give it a shot, it's not often that you see girls doin squats.

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    i_love_muscle is offline Pleasantly Perverted
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    I think jpfitness has the right approach.

    Focus, I know why she is using the pad. It's because the raw bar hurts most girls because we don't have enough beef on our back. I'd rather feel the bar than use that ridiculous pad, regardless of how much muscle I have or don't have. I could never seem to get the bar to sit at the right spot on my back using the pad.

    Danger_Dave is right -- you don't see very many females doing squats. Notwithstanding, if that girl was me, I'd have asked a trainer or somebody who was experienced to watch me and correct my form the first time I did it. And I'd appreciate being corrected again and again and again until I had perfect technique.

    I'm sure that by now, almost every guy in the gym knows they can approach me and correct my form/technique as well as giving me advice because that's the only way I'm going to challenge my body. I'm very accustomed to being a piece of clay to be molded by a coach, therefore, I'm very open to people who know more than I do critiquing my form/technique, workout, etc. I don't take things like that negatively. But I'm a technique freak (surprise, surprise).

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    Dallen is offline Verge of Overtraining
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    Quote Originally Posted by [Focus] View Post
    Always unacceptable, or do intentions matter?

    There's this chick I see every Tues when I'm doing dynamic lower, and she's the only girl I've seen doing squats at the Y.

    And the glutes on her... But that's not what it's about. See, she uses the pad thing, and though her form is pretty good, she is doing them wrong. She's bending at the waist instead of sitting back, partially because the pad leaves the weight too far forward. I want to let her know what I've noticed, recommend she ditch the pad, learn to carry the bar on her traps, and really focus on keeping her core tight and her self upright, widening her stance a bit if she has to.

    But, it's poor etiquette, isn't it? Your thoughts, please.
    Just say it like you said now. Don't just say it out right or say she's wrong. Try to offer her some advice but don't mention that it is the "correct" way and then see if she likes it. If she does, then continue from there. If she finds it harder to do or whatever, then say, "Well see ya later."

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    Dallen is offline Verge of Overtraining
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    Honestly though, if someone tries to grab me or starts touching my stuff, I take a 5 pound weight throw it across the room and say, Fetch. So basically don't grab her or try to touch her. Just simply offer the advice without saying that what she's doing is wrong. I usually try to tell people about the pull ups without wrapping the thumbs. I just simply stand there, then say try it without the thumbs. Then they go wow, that was easier, and I say cool. I never tell them they did it wrong or force them to try it my way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dallen View Post
    Honestly though, if someone tries to grab me or starts touching my stuff, I take a 5 pound weight throw it across the room and say, Fetch. So basically don't grab her or try to touch her. Just simply offer the advice without saying that what she's doing is wrong. I usually try to tell people about the pull ups without wrapping the thumbs. I just simply stand there, then say try it without the thumbs. Then they go wow, that was easier, and I say cool. I never tell them they did it wrong or force them to try it my way.
    Oh, of course. And very sensible of you both, thanks.

    I have people skills, I promise. Might see her in a little bit, here. Will let y'all know how it goes. I will be most discrete and gentlemanly, I assure you. Gonna try to get in between sets while she's working to do my speed squats, and see if she maybe notices on her own. It'd be cool if I don't have to say anything at all, as suggested by some.

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